Triumphing Through the Tongue
God has given us our members ( parts of our body) to be used to bless and not curse. He has given us our tongue to be used to encourage and not discourage, build up and not tear down, comfort and not cause grief and anxiety.
Words can cheer or cause tear; they can endear or separate; they can cause sorrow or gloom or hopelessness, despair and even drive some people to commit suicide.
Words can inspire people to a higher goal and ideal and purpose; they can trigger healing and reconciliation and bring relief. They can instigate hope and faith. This is why it is a great idea to have a time for testimonies in a gathering- people sharing their breakthroughs in recent times to lift the spirits of others that are discouraged, to know that it can happen to them too.
James tells us that the tongue can be very unruly unless it is tamed. It can light a fire that can burn down a long-lasting relationship. What was built over ten years can be razed to the ground in 10 seconds with unguarded words.
Some people pride themselves of the gift of the gab and so they find it difficult to keep quiet. They have an opinion on almost everything and want people to listen to them always.
Are you one of those?
Do not let your mouth ruin you or your relationships.
Let us learn to control our lips and think before we speak. Let us ask such questions: Would what I want to say build up or tear down? Would it aggravate or induce pleasure? Would it cause misery or exhilarate? Would it alienate or include? Would it hurt or heal? Would it benefit anyone? Do I have to say it? Someone said ‘If you have nothing good to say about someone then say nothing.’
21 The wise of heart is called perceptive, and pleasant speech increases persuasiveness
23 The mind of the wise makes their speech judicious, and adds persuasiveness to their lips. 24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. 25 Sometimes there is a way that seems to be right, but in the end it is the way to death. 26 The appetite of workers works for them; their hunger urges them on. 27 Scoundrels concoct evil, and their speech is like a scorching fire. 28 A perverse person spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends. 29The violent entice their neighbors, and lead them in a way that is not good. 30 One who winks the eyes plans perverse things; one who compresses the lips brings evil to pass. 31 Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life. Prov16:21,23–31
Here are some wise sayings on words or speech or the tongue
“Even a fool, when he holds his peace, is counted wise: and he that shuts his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.” Proverbs 17:28 American King James Bible
2. “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open ones mouth and remove all doubt” - Mark Twain (attributed)
3. “When you know you’re full of bull, keep your mouth shut” – Will Rogers
4. “Look at me, never rat on your friends and always keep your mouth shut” – Jimmy Conway character from “Goodfellas”
5. “If you keep your mouth shut, the flies won’t get in” – Spanish proverb
6. “Don’t take another mouthful before you have swallowed what is in your mouth” – African Proverb
7. “The closed mouth catches no flies” – 1742 B. Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanac
8. “If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut.” – Albert Einstein
9. “I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” – Earnest Hemingway
It’s better to keep your mouth shut and give the impression that you’re stupid than to open it and remove all doubt.
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. ~ Proverbs 12:18
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~ Proverbs 15:1
A cheerful heart is good medicine… ~ Proverbs 17:22
A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones. ~ Proverbs 15:30
Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate when people say unkind things about you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God wants you to do, and he will bless you for it. ~ 1 Peter 3:9
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. ~ Ephesians 4:29
“Does that mean we can only say positive things and not say anything negative? You know, like the old addage, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. Not exactly. Sometimes, especially as parents, it’s necessary to say things that are negative for the purpose of instructing or correcting. However, when we do so, we’re not to speak in a criticising manner, but in a positive, uplifting way in hopes of helping the other person learn or improve. Speaking positively isn’t just about what we say, but also how we say it.”